Q: The cybersex activities I most often engage in are masturbation with pornography. Whether it is through cybersex, phone sex lines, social networks, videos, smartphones, porn magazines, or simply through fantasy, sex addicts can lose hours daily to the isolating activities of fantasy and masturbation.
Loss of control, continuation despite negative life consequences, and preoccupation or obsession with the activity are the defining characteristics of any addiction.
Cybersex objectifies participants and reduces them to body parts.
Real-life sex with a committed partner can evolve into an intimacy that is very different than sex with an image on a screen.
But real intimacy takes dedicated work, communication, and play – for any addict it is always going to seem easier to pick up the phone, the computer, or a stranger for instant gratification than struggle with the messy unpredictability of an intimate relationship.
Alcoholics were assumed to be males, usually found drunk in back-alleys and half-way houses.I’ve had brief offline affairs with some of these men. I think I am a sex addict and I really struggle with this. Unfortunately, while our society often rewards men for excessive sexual behavior, it simultaneously punishes and devalues women for the same activities.No wonder it is so difficult for women to come forth and admit they have a problem.But online sex addiction has many drawbacks as well, and the price can be exorbitant.Alone with only the computer for company, cybersex participants are in fact isolated from real human contact.