Question: Why in God's name would you ever want to create a video dating profile?The Internet, in its boundless generosity, has given people (specifically those who might be considered "not traditionally beautiful") the slimmest ray of hope at having marginally normal sex lives.It expands your dating pool exponentially, opens you up to new experiences and people, and pretty much the entirety of the single (and some of the not-so-single) population is doing it. When I launched my business two and a half years ago, I had no idea what the response would be like, so I charged for a complete makeover. This is your romantic life that we’re talking about.The stigma is gone — and don’t listen to anyone who disagrees. Today, my clients zip their credit cards to the tune of anywhere around 0 to 0 (though I spill 144 pages of easy, actionable advice in my new book, for those on a budget). To be completely corny and completely honest, these sites and apps can help you find the most important person in your life — and they all require some sort of profile (yes, even a series of photos counts).You’ve got your sweatpants on, ordered enough Thai for two but only for one, and there’s a bottle of open booze somewhere in the room — you must be single on Valentine’s Day. And I’m probably doing the exact same thing, with one big difference: instead of crying my way through…er, I mean dry-eyed watching a cheesy romcom, I’ve got my computer open, and I’m working overtime.Such is the life of an online dating profile ghostwriter.“I sing Bob Dylan in the shower and Robyn in the car” or “I lived in a houseboat for three months…until it sank. I just moved to dry land.)” or even a quote from your favorite TV show (Tom Haverford from Parks and Recreation is a personal favorite: “When life gives you lemons, you sell some of your grandma’s jewelry and go clubbing”) says something about you and helps spark conversation. Bad dates are good stories (that happen to help you learn something about yourself), and remember: it only takes one good date…
And if you’re not getting the response you want, it’s silly to look outward and avoid looking at the quality of your own page — because a better profile yields better results.
On profile-centric sites (Ok Cupid, Match.com, JDate, etc.) Don’t use adjectives to describe yourself — they’re meaningless. Don’t use too many exclamation points or emoticons!!! Don’t treat your profile as a biography, and don’t introduce yourself at the beginning or sign at the end.
J Do feel confident enough to change your profile text and photos often. Do be relatable, open-minded, and give people the benefit of the doubt.
From the start of the New Year through March are some of my busiest months, with new clients galore right around the big V-Day.
It’s like tax season for accountants — only I work on romantic relationships rather than relationships with the IRS (for good reason). The dream of summer is a distant twinkle in your eye.